Im looking at my sisters kid, who is 4 and clearly has great difficulties in fine motor control, impulsivity, awareness, sensitive and is quite needy emotionally. Hes just like i was at his age, and i have no doubt that he will be diagnosed with adhd one day.

Now differently from me, hes had 0 trauma. Safe environment, safe parents.

The little boy is already unsure of himself and under the brain disorganization, you can tell he is desperate of feeling love towards him. His twin sister is completely different - and is self assured.

Which got me thinking - the inherent sensitivity is a genetic trait. I have it, he has it. But my sister, who gave birth to him, is not securely attached - she is somewhat avoidant. My mom who was very caring and super affectionate is an empty anxious attacher.

What me and my nephew had in common is that we were sensitive kids, who had mothers who didmt posses a strong felt experience of self love, that they could channel into the kids. I dont mean the acts of being caring or nurturing, i mean a felt experience of “knowing” and feeling love.

Now, im wondering, do you guys know your moms attachment style? Are there any cases where a sensitive kid has adhd but the mom is actually securely attached?