I'm gay and use sites like grindr and I have this tendency to over message people who I like and seem to like me too. This happens especially when neither if us can meet at day or night bit talk about another day that works. I'll usually message them on the day they specify and usually get no response. Sending "heys" or "what's ups" when I see them active online afterwards to try to get their attention only to be left either unopened or read.

I hate it because it makes me feel awful. Like I'm someone who just wants to talk or meet the person. It's an overexcited reaction and I always blow it. I'll sometimes try to explain and apologize only for it to happen again. Then I think this person must think I'm weird or creepy and I'm not trying to be.

It's causing a lot issues for me lately. It doesn't help that I can be impatient but I don't ever act angry towards someone else, I'll usually just keep checking my phone to see if something has changed. I really want to stop this behavior but I don't really know how. It also just helps feeling lonely but then I feel lonelier and worse. Makes me just want to give up on these apps entirely. Does anyone have any advice for breaking myself of this cycle?