My partner says that it feels like I don't care about what they say, but I do care very much! I just forget conversations we've bad or thing's she's told me sometimes, and need to be reminded multiple times...

Today we had a fight about it again... A month ago, we had a conversation about how she's never made mayonnaise, I forgot. She bought ingredients to make mayonnaise a week ago and we talked about it then because I forgot again and she reminded me then. Now she's made the mayonnaise today, and she was surprised at how it emulsified and I went "you've never made mayonnaise before?" and she got super upset and said I robbed her of the joy that she had at the moment when she made mayo for the first time, and feels like we have the same arguments and conversations over and over again

She also said she has to remember everything for the entire household. Which I don't feel is true, I presently take care of all the bills and rent, and pay them early or have them on auto pay. We split household tasks and I probably end up doing slightly more than her because I obsess over having a clean space all the time. So I'm not really sure what there is to remember…