Hi hi I wanted to hear how others best manage and mitigate their rejection sensitivity dysphoria?

On top of having ADHD I’m also codependent (working on it through CoDA) and have validated myself, my appearance, my value/worth etc through the approval of others. This is especially true when it comes to having others be sexually/romantically interested in me.

I was lightly rejected by a girl I was interested in which has done a smidge on my self esteem and has me questioning my value, appearance and worth. I’m happy to be in CoDA so it’s not totally sending me reeling but it still sucks and it sucks to not feel as stable with my self worth/value as I’d like to in order to best handle this rejection

Even then I knew when first talking to her that we weren’t super compatible but I felt super attracted to her nonetheless so ultimately her lightly rejecting me feels like the universe intervening honestly.

Just tough to deal with especially since I got out of a relationship with a narcissist several months ago, and I haven’t been with anyone since. due to being with a narcissist I have really felt a bit down on myself because of not receiving outside validation from others and almost feel a bit competitive about it? Like “oh I bet my ex has been with people already which means he’s more valuable than me. Maybe I’ve just become unattractive” btw im n ot in contact with my ex he’s blocked on everything and I don’t check his socials

Not feeling as bad as I would’ve in previous years but still - any advice is appreciated ❤️