So, basically, title. Me and boyfriend both have our mental health issues and he is really good at supporting mine so I want to support his, which is diagnosed ADHD. Therefore I have the primary “mental load” in remembering what need to be done and when, and so I mostly am the “commander” and shuffle tasks onto him which he always does with a smile. He also says he really likes task that are not time constrained the most (so eg not things like putting up the laundry to dry before it’ll start rotting). All that’s fine and good.

The thing is… he takes 30 or 40 minutes loading and unloading the dishwasher. I think this is mostly because he constantly stops and watches a video or just takes breaks or whatever. But I just feel so bad for him? And it’s also a bit frustrating because I’m sitting here thinking it could’ve been done 28 minutes ago?

Do I say something to him? I have casually joked about it before and it seems like it doesn’t bother him, but I’m legitimately wondering if he even knows that… things… can be done faster. Can I and/or should I teach him to be faster?

As ADHD people, can you shed some light on this and help me understand him?