I'm a 35F and my partner since a year M32 has RSD. It's not causing us a lot of trouble but I know that unwelcome thoughts about being rejected by me pops up in his head several times a day, and I would like to help him minimise it as much as possible.

We can talk about the topic, but I would deeply appreciate insights and inspiration from others managing RSD in their relationships.

We're currently using two strategies:

One where I do my best to remind him that I want him around for example saying "I can't come tomorrow but really look forward to see you on Saturday" instead of just saying that I can't come tomorrow.

And the second is that he is encouraged to tell me when he feels rejected, no matter how small or "stupid" the reason is, so I can tell him that I still want him in my life even if I, for example, preferred to use my own shirt over his.

What else is there that I can do to better support my partner?

I also want to add that this is not wearing on me and I don't feel like I'm turning myself inside out by doing this.