OK I'm struggling and I can't figure out where the middle ground is so I'd like your help. Facts: -ADHD is a mental health disorder with symptoms - these symptoms can impact other people's lives e.g. tardiness, overachieving then crashing, doom piles, paralysis leading to delayed text times, obkrct permenance including people, etc... -It's our job to manage these symptoms and do our best to not hurt or inconvenience others.

My question is:

How much understanding or consideration is reasonable to ask for? How do you ask for these considerations? I think we can all relate to doing really well for a while but then crashing.

I just feel constantly vilianized for the things I struggle with. I don't know how to ask for what I need to change.

I fully understand their perspective and feelings of frustration when having to deal with the consequences of my errors. But it just feels like they never let anything go... idk what to do.

I just want them to let the little things slide and be upset about the times where there's like an o f**k moment.