So I’m 21, I live with my man, our 2 children and my big brother . He’s been diagnosed with adhd since before I was born but , mom never let him take medicine and stopped taking him to the doctor so he’s never been treated for it . I’m also thinking that he’s on the spectrum but as I said mom never took him or me to the doctors..ever . Not sure if it’s relevant just a little back story. We moved out of moms house almost 3 years ago , and my brother is the most disgusting person I’ve ever met. Not like in a “ew haha gross brother” kinda way… he pi$$es in bottles instead of going to the bathroom. He is gay (nothing wrong with that at all) , so he will go to the bathroom , pl@y with himself , and then leave drops of poop & bl00d all over the bathroom counter , toilet , and floor . he has a mountain of trash right next to his bed , and he hasn’t even taken his things out of the box from when we moved here . I’ve asked him politely to stop these things multiple times . Begged him to clean his room. I have 2 children and there’s no reason there should be fecal matter all over the toilet seat when my child needs to use the bathroom… but he just. Doesn’t. Care. He doesn’t listen. He just gets angry , ignores you, and then continues to do whatever he’s doing.