A commen statement from her after a hard night is "I'm always the issue anytime I tell you how I feel"

Today we talked about how I ask for sex and I mention that it's really the only thing you say yes to when ur in the mood I often get no when I ask to play a game or go for a walk and i turned it around

I honestly feel her saying no is true I've stopped asking to do things because I get turned down and i can't take it really idk why sex is different but I don't care if I get rejected I'm okay to just hang out and be but I feel like we don't do anything and I get nos when I ask to do stuff

And this argument is the same one that comes up every 2-3 months and I need help on how to listen better and not turn the conversation on its her but rather its me and us

I recognize i need to change this but I don't know how and I'm crying in my car gutted because I ruined her night