29M, been married for 10 years almost. Just for reference.

I've been a closeted ABDL forever. My earliest diaper thoughts were almost as soon as I was potty trained. I've only shared with two people directly. The first was my high school sweetheart and eventual wife. She was immediately ashamed and chastised me into stopping. After we split I got back into it. Enter 2nd wife. She was initially supportive, but from a distance. She wasn't ever into it with me, but will occasionally partake. During arguments she'll occasionally lash out and tell me it's a waste of time or disgusting or whatever. Today we had another fight after she found out that I ordered some M3's from Amazon. She told me to stop wasting money and that I don't need to be spending money on a weird sexual fetish (I'm 99% DL with a small sexual component). I very seldomly wear because of the disapproval she gives. I order dips like once every other year. I only wear when I'm home alone and conceal the evidence as best as possible.

Basically, my question is: Is it time to give it up? Is it possible to give it up? Is it worth losing someone over? Thoughts?

Delete if not welcome. Thanks for any help.