Advanced warning that this is going to be long but hi!

I have a few years worth of experience with ABDL but no real, serious relationships have come of it. A couple consistent FWB situations with lovely people where it mutually wouldn’t have been feasible to date, and tbh, at the time I wasn’t looking to date seriously.

I’m at a point now where I’d like to find my life partner. I don’t struggle with dating/finding potential partners in the vanilla-dating world but there’s something about this kink that keeps drawing me back every so often. It’s weird enough that I wouldn’t feel comfortable discussing it with a vanilla partner so it makes sense for me to search for someone specifically into this and then narrow it down to find someone who I can hopefully get along with just as well in the non-kink parts of life.

To be clear, I’m looking for someone who has a desire to (very much eventually, not in any rush) get married and potentially start a family. If you know you don’t want or can’t maintain a serious relationship at this point in your life, please stop reading here. Additionally, if you have any form of STDs, are unemployed, or don’t live on your own, please stop reading here. I get the struggle and respect that some people need to have roommates to survive nowadays (especially in this area), but I don’t want to have to constantly host and I don’t want to be intimate with your roommate a few doors down. With that in mind, if you don’t live within a 1 hour commute via public transit of NYC, please don’t reach out.

If you’ve made it this far, thanks for reading :). I am a 30 year old female living in the NYC metro area. I work full time, live on my own, and generally live a pretty “normal” life. I like going out with friends, playing video games, spa days and self care, seeing shows, and all of that. I drink alcohol socially and am 420 friendly. I would prefer someone who doesn’t smoke cigarettes. I’m 5’3, white, and weigh around 125 lbs. I’m open to sharing SFW photos after talking a bit.

When it comes to kinks, I wouldn’t say that I’m a “little” necessarily because it’s not a space that I enter on my own. For me, this kink is more so about being with someone who I trust enough that I’ll allow them to force me into that space to get them off. I like the idea of giving someone all of that power and control, allowing them to reduce me to nothing more than a mindless baby. It contrasts with my vanilla life where I am very independent and hold a serious job, so I think that’s part of why it turns me on. Beyond ABDL I’d be open to exploring most kinks that turn my partner on but I have absolutely no interest in switching so if you’re a switch (even if you say you want ask me to domme) please do not message me. I really enjoy turning my partner on so other than things that cause permanent or severe physical damage, I’m open to trying most things. I like the psych aspect of this kink too so the control over media consumption, outfits, other ABDL type of activities are all things I’d like to explore.

Aside from the non-negotiables that I mentioned above, I’m pretty open to potential partners when it comes to appearance. I’d prefer someone older than me but would ask that you’re at least 27. I also ask that you specifically have interest in ABDL. When you message me, please send me a DETAILED message about who you are, what your kinks are, and why you think we’d be a good match. One word or short messages giving me no/little information about you will simply be ignored. I spent time writing this post, please match that effort.