To be upfront about this, I am 100% straight and only interested in friendship with other guys. Any romantic or sexual things I mention apply only to women.

Hi! I just moved to Chicago and I'm still expanding my friends circle here, but I thought I'd reach my tendrils out into the interwebs to see if I can make some connections into this particular kink.

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Basics

I'm 5'8" with blue eyes and brown hair, and I've been told I'm good-looking by several people. As a result of my hobbies and lifestyle, I am in very good physical shape. I'm financially stable and take care of myself on my own.

Here is a body pic so you can see what I look like:

https://imgur.com/a/hXZC2lN

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General personality and vanilla interests

Generally speaking, I'm quiet and pretty reserved. I've been told I act as an anchor of calm for people when things are chaotic both at work and in my personal life. I'm intelligent and compassionate, but as I get more comfortable with people, I have a bit of a mischievous side. My friends say I'm a little shit, so I guess you could say it's something like annoying-but-lovable little brother energy. I love to tease and gently aggravate without actually hurting anyone. I have a good sense of humor that really doesn't come across in an ad like this, but I promise I can make you laugh.

I have several vanilla interests, first and foremost being fitness. I mainly lift weights and run to stay in shape. I take good care of myself and I have physical goals I'd like to achieve, like running a half marathon. Ideally, I would like my partner to share an interest in fitness (muscle mommies can go right to the front of the line). But it's not my only interest. I enjoy cooking as well, and I've made a pretty wide variety of dishes. In particular, I tend to cook a lot of eastern Asian food. I'm also a cat dad to a very spoiled fluffy princess, and I love cats in general. While I haven't picked it up since moving, I used to volunteer working with cats at an animal shelter. I play video games and watch anime on occasion too and would love to find someone who's up to play. For more info and some cat pics though, you'll have to talk to me ;)

Here's some food porn of stuff I've made before:

https://imgur.com/a/1Djfpkz

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Relationships

Honestly, I'm not all that experienced with romantic relationships due to a combination of factors. I tend to be shy with approaching because I don't want to come across as overbearing. Someone who is able to draw me out of my shell would be amazing. Despite being an introvert myself, I'm particularly drawn to extraverts, probably because they balance out my calm energy. In other words, if you're an extravert, please adopt me.

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What I'm looking for

What I'm ultimately looking for is a long term relationship. However, I don't want the burden of that expectation hanging over every interaction I have. If you'd just like to be friends, that is absolutely fine. I am strongly demisexual and need a personal connection before wanting to engage in play anyway. The best way of putting it is that I'd like to see where things go and don't want to force things, but I'd happily go for a long term relationship if it felt right. I would also like to meet up IRL fairly quickly, likely within a week or two of chatting if we feel comfortable. This would of course be in a safe public setting, but I'd rather avoid endlessly chatting online and exhausting all the conversation topics before we even meet up.

I'm OK making more guy friends as well, but if you reach out, please understand that I don't really want to play with other men. Casually chatting about the kink is fine, but I'm not interested in actually engaging in anything. It would effectively be a vanilla friendship where we're free to talk about kink without judgement.

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Kinks

I'm a switch and primarily into ABDL, but I also have an interest in both giving and receiving spankings and in pegging. My interest in the AB side of the spectrum tends to come and go, but I always find girls in diapers very appealing. I'm open to more casual play with someone who is purely a little, but in a long term relationship I would need someone who is either a switch or a DL who likes me in diapers too to be happy. I'm OK with frequent play, but I would not want to engage in any sort of 24/7 dynamic even if it were feasible. I'm looking for a healthy relationship with a side of kink, not a relationship built on kink.

I'm generally open-minded, but my hard limits are:

• Anything illegal
• Anything that exposes non-consenting people to kink
• Anything excessively dangerous. For me, this would include fire play and blood play since I have no experience with them.
• Sounding
• Findom

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Please reach out if I sound interesting to you!