[Before I type this big block of text, I just want to be upfront, I'm looking for Fs, mtfs or femboys -- nothing against masculine guys, but it's just not what I'm looking for.]

I never thought I'd be one to write a huge block of text, but as I'm getting older and wiser and more in control of my horniness, I'm starting to see the appeal. I'm a 30 year old pretty normal, artsy-yet-sports-watching professional type. I'm fit, 6 feet tall. I've been told I look pretty good without glasses on, but alas, contacts scare the crap out of me.

To get the biggest thing out of the way, I'm in a relationship. I live with my longterm partner. We just recently bought a house together. We are in love and plan to start a family as soon as the prospect of having kids stops being so terrifying.

So *why am I posting on here*? Does the allure of chatting with diaper girls drive me to go behind her back? Not at all. We are poly. We've been practicing this lifestyle for about 7 years and it works for us. We both have relationships outside of our primary one, and some of them have been longterm and serious. It's not without it's hiccups, but we've been doing this long enough to work out many of the kinks.

My partner and I have a great and very passionate sex life, but we both need things at times that the other can't provide. In my case, it's diapers. Diapers have been my kink for as long as I can remember. Just the look and feel of thick plastic padding gives me a visceral feeling. My partner is awesome enough to encourage and partake even when it isn't her thing. But she understands my desire to find someone who shares the same deeply-rooted feelings.

I'm not particularly into AB stuff, but I do think pacifiers, and frilly plastic pants can perfectly supplement a thick diapered bottom and add that extra layer of erotic shame that makes this kink so awesome. Same goes for spankings and corner time.

This is probably where I should clarify that I'm a switch. I love scenarios that involve diapers and humiliation regardless of how I'm involved: Whether as the dom, as the sub, as the casual observer. Because I'm fairly tall, and a good improviser, I've tended to be in the dom role with all my play partners. I'm comfortable with this, and if you're someone who exclusively plays the sub role, that's ok. I just want to be upfront that I do wear diapers too. I don't want to have to hide that, even if we aren't actively playing that way.

So who am I looking for? Let's break this down into bullet points because why not.

• You're 22-36 years old. Those aren't super rigid numbers, but I'd like to meet someone in the same stage of life. You're adulting reasonably well; have your own place, steady job, etc.
• You're F, mtf or femboy -- I've kept an open mind and had several different play partners over the years, but come to realize it's femininity I connect with.
• You're also poly or at least have an understanding of the poly lifestyle. I'm totally open to this being a long term and even an emotionally close relationship, but there are certain boundaries involved with having a primary partner.
• You appreciate dinner and drinks at a new restaurant
• You have a good sense of humor and are willing to laugh at dad jokes

And perhaps most importantly, we have that effortless back and forth where we can tease each other over this awesome kink. Random diaper checks. Embarrassing pet names. Bouncing ideas off each other for scenarios and outings. Embracing this erotic-shameful mess of a kink for the therapist's field day that it is.

Oh and lastly, if you've made it this far down and haven't run off screaming, tell me about your newest favorite restaurant in Chicago. OK novel over!