Hi there, thanks for opening this post. I’m sure something like this gets posted often as my situation is probably not unique in this community, but I (27M) am super into ABDL and I don’t know if I should tell my gf (27F) at all, and if I should I don’t know how to tell her.

We’ve been dating seriously for almost a year now and we spend a majority of our time staying at one or the other’s house. Our sex life is pretty great and I have no problem with “normal/vanilla” sex, like everything is enjoyable and works fine etc lol. She is super sweet, has always been someone I can be vulnerable around and talk to honestly when times get tough, and I really believe she and I have a very real future together as we’ve discussed it quite a few times. The problem I have with potentially introducing this other side of myself is that I’m terrified that I’ll lose the way she looks at me as “a man”, as someone who can be relied on, as someone who can be sexy and strong and confident. I always think to myself “there’s no way she would envision changing her future husband’s diaper in the bedroom, she’ll only see you as someone who needs taking care of at the expense of her own needs.”. Those thoughts make me want to bury this side of myself in the closet only to be taken out and enjoyed when I’m alone.

So all that said, my question to women is threefold: Is it possible to share this side of myself with her and still have her see me as that “man of my dreams” type? Were you into ABDL before your SO or were you introduced to it? If you were introduced to it, how did it impact your view of your SO going forward?

Thanks.