Plenty of my friends and family know about my incontinence and use of nappies….however, it still surprises me how new people will notice and question my nappies even when I am very discreet about my wearing.

My wife recently made friends with some new people at a netball club she joined. One of them came to the house a few evenings ago…and well…it was eventful!

I popped upstairs to do something whilst they chatted in the kitchen….I faintly overheard the conversation happening downstairs.

“Sorry, but I have to ask….does he wear incontinence pads”

My wife being super open was like “Yehhhh, he’s been wearing nappies for 15 years….he’s got a couple of disabilities but copes well”.

Anyway, I reemerge and the conversation turns to me: “Just been telling Sarah about you….she works in a care home and spotted your nappy”.

It was really interesting/liberating to have an open conversation with somebody who deals with nappies in a professional setting - she apparently spotted the shape under my sweats instantly as she has a trained eye for it.

In her work she deals with a variety of ages but one thing she did say was “A lot of people come into our facility and use pads sparingly at first and then they become so used to them, they become a safety net, they get scared to go without them and then end up using them full time”.

A fascinating insight….however, maybe I’m not as discreet as I thought!