So I have a new-ish gf who was privy to ABDL (aware, but not into it) before I introduced her to it and very very open minded (going for 8 months). At first, she was meh about it, then I had a really hard day and she babied me, and she went crazy about being a mommy. I feel extremely blessed, because she likes to baby me on the weekends, and we've mostly kept it to the house. However, when we DO go out, she doesn't understand what the "fuss" is about when it comes to public play. She has a real c'est la vie attitude about my diapers, and we even get into mild arguments sometimes about where it's appropriate to change.

Her side of the story is that it's ridiculous to have to try to find an abandoned parking lot to change me, and takes up waaaaay to much time, and nobody would think twice if she changed me in the back seat of a normal parking lot. We were once at a park, about a 30 min walk from any car, and she insisted on doing a change behind a bush or on a picnic table in the woods. It was the weekend, and there were lots of people there, even though our part of the trail was temporarily private. I "won" out on that discussion, but she thinks it's a game and I'm just being coy, and likes to talk loudly about my diapers when I begin to push back, so I've kinda stopped.

She's also done things like checked me, or put powder down the back of my diaper to "embarrass" me a few times, randomly. Nobody's really paid attention, but I feel so guilty at the idea of people being "exposed" to it. When we do our outings we go pretty far afield, so it's not like I'd bump into someone from work. But, I'm mostly just worried about being a public nuisance or a boundary pusher when we play like this. The embarrassment actually feels really good, and most of these humiliation episodes only last seconds to minutes, but I feel like something I'm doing is immoral. It's nothing extreme, I'm not going out in full baby garb and messing myself but, it does feel SUPER extreme when she changes me in a regular parking lot or checks me randomly. Like, is this harmful? I feel like it's borderline.