Does anyone else have a predicament like this and doesn’t mind sharing? I’ll go head and share mine: I was in a car wreck several years back (involving a cliff) that badly fractured my lower/lumbar spinal section (L4-L5) (lower seatbelt whiplash), and bone shrapnel cut up my spinal cord at the bottom.. right where, yaknow 🙄 my bladder is. The surgeon did a great job in my opinion , it was an extensive surgery. Spinal fusion and 2 12” rods 10 carpentry-grade titanium screws. (No, I don’t set off metal detectors lol)

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Sometimes I don’t even feel it til it’s too late, start voiding gradually and can’t stop, and I’m screwed if not padded (usually if I’m hydrated and doing some activity, or just being careless and forgetting that could happen), luckily haven’t had this happen in a horrible scenario or anything but it is super embarrassing 😭. And sometimes it’s just an abrupt but urgent feeling to go right now that’s almost too hard to fight it unless I’m basically on my way to a bathroom. It wasn’t always this way, but it fluctuates. I’ve def matched the criteria for incontinent the past 2 years at least I believe tho 🙄 at 22! So since 20…

Chronic pain in my lower spine is also an issue but it has been occurring less often as the years go on, but if i strain it somehow in a weird position or sometimes no apparent reason, it’ll hurt badly for at least the next few days. Usually when it’s hurting I have the most accidents. Not gonna be in tip top shape if i make it to 50

I made a “full” recovery tho and am totally like normal now aside from this.. wearing diapers to bed nearly every night & having to have them stocked and carry an extra around with me (usually pullups during the day if I’ve had an unlucky streak), but tbh pullups (Northshore or Abena M3) are super comfy in my opinion I love wearing them, and no stressing about accidents during the day yaknow lol. They basically could replace regular underwear for me altogether and not buldge or be anything but comfy & more effective. Hot weather sucks tho! 🥵 And so do social settings if I’m padded and need to.. “use the bathroom” to change my pullup.. But sometimes I’ll be dry for a month, sometimes wet 3 times in a row.

I’ve talked to drs and they said unfortunately due to the nature of my injury and location where my spine/spinal cord was damaged, loss of bladder control is definitely a high risk and happens in patients with similar injuries, because all the pelvic nerves in that specific area get disrupted and won’t function properly to send signals to your brain saying it’s time to pee, and like I said sometimes I don’t even feel it coming then notice “damn I’m wet 😂”. So I guess I might have to just stay in diapers for awhile. Don’t know how I think about that… I like feeling padded don’t get me wrong, but i went thru a major crash, with real long-lasting trauma and issues. It’s just really embarrassing around friends not knowing, or worrying if they see. But the anxiety if I don’t wear at all is worse cuz the urge (or no urge) can come out of nowhere. I try timing my water intake but if that always worked I wouldn’t need diapers. Plus the summer being hot I need to decently hydrate

Now don’t even get me started with relationships. I’m not a bad looking guy, but have high depression and anxiety and likely ptsd that hinder my ability to have a good relationship. Plus the ~1% of population into ABDL or even someone willing to comfort and baby me is very low given my mental state and personality. Also way too against/afraid telling a girl I have to wear diapers. Even if she’d understand I still couldn’t find anyone even if I tried giving myself away for free. Plus I don’t love myself :(

Back to the injury though, for the most part I’ve physically healed (but nerves are a different story) like I said but at least 2x a week or more I’ll wake up wet. At least not in a cold puddle with immense frustration, l I’m glad for that at least

Whatever though, at least they’re super comfy 😂 im in the ABDL sub for a reason. I’m ABDL and highly enjoy the comfort and security of being diapered 💙 it just can be reeaallyy embarrassing sometimes relying on them, esp in iffy situations of for those who don’t understand or are quick to judge. Glad I could open up in here free of all that. Love ur beautiful souls [sorry for huge post]

Tldr; spinal fracture and spinal cord injury in car accident caused 22m to become incontinent. Discussion on what that’s like