Greetings Land of the ABD-Liens, not my first time here, probably not my last either. I’ve been around the “scene” for quite some time now. I’m 34 years old and I have been in and out of the community since I was 18.

For a long time, I felt like this was such a huge part of myself, like I couldn’t exist in a romantic relationship without this to some capacity. By no means was it a deal breaker, but I deemed that it had to be recognized at the very least.

After leaving a long term relationship about a little over a year ago, I noticed a change in myself. She was not initially into this before we got together, but she truly embraced it, which I was very fortunate for.

I realized that this doesn’t have to be some huge spectacle when it’s in a relationship, I know all the fantasies that come with this are so easy to get lost in, but it truly isn’t what it’s all made up in your mind to be. Go easy and don’t get lost in this.

My point to all of this is, I’m no longer carrying these unrealistic expectations, especially within this community. If I find someone that happens to be a part of this community great, if I find someone that isn’t and is just ok with playing around with it, also great. Don’t be your worst enemy and most definitely don’t put something as silly as diapers on a pedestal, just let it be.

Sincerely, some 7oser on Reddit.