My main question is: as someone who has always considered myself an ABDL, and as someone who is now medically incontinent, how welcome would I be entering into incontinence spaces?

No. I did not “unpotty train.” Nor has that ever been a goal. Sorry to hurt any feelings, but I had a very awkward conversation with a doctor about how that’s simply not realistic or possible.

I was in an accident 6 years ago, and ended up with a condition called a neurogenic bladder. The muscles and nerves in my bladder get confused from time to time as a result of damage to my back and abdomen.

I can talk about treatment options and methods of coping with my condition if needed. My condition began effecting my life maybe 4 years ago. 2 years ago I finally had the convo with my doctor. I went through maybe 18 months of tests. My “diagnosis” is a year old now, and we’re just now at the point with the two doctors I see (urologist and neurologist) that we’re talking about long term care.

The confusion enters my mind whenever I think about seeking advice from members of the incontinent community who aren’t ABDLs. A few times now, I’ve had questions or concerns I want to vent about, like dating as someone who no longer has the option whether or not to wear diapers for example.

For context, I want to add that I don’t have to wear 24/7. I am forced to wear maybe daily, in situations where I have a difficult time managing my bladder without an extra layer of protection.

I am an ABDL. I’ve always been an ABDL. Lately, I’ve been less of an AB and more of a DL. But this is still a kink of mine. I struggle with it right now, for all the reasons associated with the paragraphs above.

I’ve done periods of 24/7 because I worked from home and why not? I’ve dated other people in this community. I’m entrenched in this in a way that makes me believe I won’t be accepted by incontinent people who don’t find pleasure in the ABDL world. I’m scared to even browse those communities!

I genuinely believe people are going to call me a fraud, or maybe find me disgusting because I enjoy diapers. Now that my choice has been taken away, my relationship with diapers is changing dramatically.

Are my worries warranted? Should I make an account that makes no mention of ABDL to interact within those communities? Should I just be myself? Should I avoid it all together? Am I crazy?

Edit: cleaned up a couple typos.