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Lmaooo I took nothing and just escaped (as much as he would let me). But I understand why people have that perception, no hard feelings.
I'm aware, just putting that out there for clarity 😉
Apparently I can't edit this post, but to answer some questions:
Yes I left. I was neglected for over 15 years and I tried for ALL of those years get him to notice me and care about me, so yeah I'm fucking happy because I'm finally able to do what I want and not get yelled at and feel at least slightly wanted. I just needed to feel wanted even a little bit and he was never going to give me that, no matter how hard I tried to make him realize that that is what I needed.
The tattoo is a lotus flower. I didn't get my first tattoo until I was 41 because my ex-husband didn't like tattoos so I waited. I'm going to get my next tattoo on the 27th and it's going to be what's inscribed on the a One Ring across my other thigh. I could not be more excited about it.
I understand a whole lot of women out there are terrible, but so are a whole lot of men. I did not leave this marriage with a godamn thing but my freedom. He was supposed to pay the absolute minimum that the judge would allow in child support for our two kids and he still didn't pay that, and I have not (and will not) turned him in for that.I'm just grateful to not be yelled at every fucking day.
Let me know if you have any other questions, I would be happy to answer them. I'm not perfect. Marriage is always between two people. But I fucking tried, which is more than I can say for him.
Finally someone that gets it!! I was pretty (reluctantly) excited about it lmao
Lmaoooo thank you for the laugh, funniest comment for sure (it's a lotus flower, I'm about to have what's inscribed on the one ring on my other thigh though!)
Thank you, and I'm so happy to hear you're better, too!! Definitely on meds, but also working hard in the gym, and I also made it though a heavy drinking phase that consisted of a whole lot of Fireball I'm sad to say, so it was no surprise I gained 40 pounds drinking sugar whiskey lmao
You've got this! I heard somewhere that it takes a month for every year you were together to recover, and honestly that's pretty spot-on for me, married 20 years and it took me almost 2 years to really feel okay. I promise you it gets better ❤️
Honestly for all the tools I have in my house to get fit (weights, an elliptical, a treadmill), paying for a membership and forcing myself to leave the house to work out has been way more helpful than anything. But I'm very proud of you for being sober for so long, that's seriously incredible ❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss, divorce is a nightmare but it does get better. It took a couple years but I'm happier than I've been in a long time. You'll get there too, it's hard work but very worth it ❤️
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Ex-husband was absolutely a psychotic narcissist, you are correct kind sir or lady