My wife does not come from a traditional background she fell into when she met me and things worked out and she's been very pleased with her life so far. Even though she has three degrees and is more highly educated then myself it has made sense for us to live a traditional lifestyle like they did in the 1950s. Some of her family has also taken a similar approach to life like we have, making it work on a single income so the mother can stay home and raise the children to be the best they possibly can be. We get along with this side of her family very well and my wife recently mentioned she's been talking with one of her cousins. Her cousin would like to be able to take her kids on a vacation this summer but due to income limitations a hotel costing hundreds or potentially thousands is something they can't afford right now, something I totally get. There have been years my wife and I have been in a similar situation. Thankfully for us we live in an older part of the country and can take day trips to many museums, or historical sights to be able to affordably have a single day activity.

My wife is originally from about 6 hours away from where we currently live, we met while she was here in college getting her first degree, do she asked me if she could invite her cousin and her children to stay with us for a week while they explored the various activities all within an hour or two drive. I told her I think this is a fantastic idea, being able to spend time with family of hers we both enjoy, the opportunity for her kids to explore and see things they otherwise might not he able to see. I did tell my wife that I feel some of our house rules should extend to her cousin while she visits with us. Specifically I want to extend the rule of wearing socks and dresses while at the house. This is a rule that we have extended to others before. Traditional/kink friendly co-workers, friends and members of my family. We talk to them and explain why we are asking this and they have the choice to concent to it or not, I want to extend the same thing to her cousin. I have had various conversations over the years with her cousin, her cousins husband about traditional gender roles, life ect. I am very confident that her cousin will not be offended by this but feel greatful we are being open with her about us.

My wife is also hoping by extending this offer to her cousin that other family of hers may come and visit with us, rather then us having to drive to them to visit. I understand why my wife is hesitant to ask her to conform to some of our rules while she visits as she may say no and could kill future opportunities for her family to come and visit with us. Am I wrong for wanting her to offer this and to extend our rules to her cousin temporarily while she visits with us? It's not like I'm asking to have sexual rules extend to her family, just a simple dress code for our house and basic respects. Rules in the past we have extended to members of my family, my co-workers and her friends. They've all had the choice to concent to the rules, most have concented to them. Some have not, and both have been okay by me. But I feel like we should give them the choice to concent to the house rules. Am I wrong for asking her to do this?