Bad title I know but just a question for ladies.

I'm a man who just turned 21 and I found out about this trad wife/50s house wife stuff recently. I find the concept not only hot but also very appealing as a general relationship. I want to have a big family and be a good father figure just as much as I want a wife who I think is hot and who wants me As much as I want her. But I have noticed that girls around my age (18-24) in this demographic are more interested in much older men. I'm just curious as to why that is. Are there any girls who want this lifestyle with a man closer in age?

I also have a thing about the relationship dynamic. I have made posts on other subreddits about the stuff I'm looking for but those haven't bared any fruit. I want a very sexually charged relationship, that isn't solely about the sexual dynamic. I Don't just want a "perfect" wife, I want to be a good husband to women who is perfect to me. Are these the wrong places to look for that? I want a sexual relationship, sure. But I really want a relationship too.