Hello, I’m a 31 year old Hispanic male living in TX. I currently work as an engineer for a major refinery in the area, so my time outside of work can be fairly limited and I find it hard to make new connections outside of just work colleagues who sometimes go out for drinks.

To give some history, I recently moved back to Texas late last year. Before that, I was moving around the country for work for about 3 years. First in Oregon, a few months in Iowa, and then in Chicago before making my way back to Texas on a job offer I just couldn’t turn down. Throughout that time, I’ve found it hard to make connections outside of my current (mostly online) friend group. At first I blamed it on moving around so much. But I had over a year in most places I stayed to go out, get to know the area, and maybe find some connections. So that can’t be it, right?

I find myself feeling lonely, more now than ever since I’ve decided to stick it out with this company for the long term and make the most of my career that I can here. But even with that loneliness in mind, how do I go about making friends, let along finding a partner now? I don’t really go out to clubs or party anymore. I go to the gym and a few coffee shops when I have the time, but I doubt you want to be approached by a random man while you’re doing your workout or working and enjoying your drink. Maybe I’m too in my own head, I’m not sure.

What I’m looking for is a partner who wants to be a homemaker. Someone who will be home waiting for me with a kiss and a hot meal. I’d like to have a clean and organized home. In return, I’ll be sure to take care of you and your needs. I would expect my partner to take care of her appearance (hair, nails, etc.), so I would of course pay for all of that. As well as hobbies, clothes, whatever else they may need to be happy. I don’t mind an age gap, obviously why I’m posting here, but please don’t contact me if you’re “close to 18” or “can you wait a year for me?”. I don’t interact with minors in that way and never will.

I will be your head of house, your guide, the firm hand you need to guide you through life and make sure you're taken care of. I'll treat you gently as long as you're a good housewife, but will be firm and deal out discipline as needed. As long as you understand who you are and what our roles are, we can make it work. I don't expect you to just hand yourself over right away. We can take time to get to know each other, let me show you I'm what you need. And show me that you're worth being my wife.

I want to clarify that children aren’t for me. Please don’t try to change my mind on this, it’s not going to happen and just an uncomfortable conversation to avoid.

Do I have physical preferences? Of course I do, I think we all do. My preferences are more with how someone presents themselves and takes care of their appearance more so than specific physics characteristics. My job has certain social functions that I sometimes have to attend and showing up well dressed and well put together can be a big factor in terms of image and perception. And you know what they say? “Perception is reality”, at least in the corporate world.

I want to go ahead and give a disclaimer so that you don’t waste your time. I am in the larger side at the moment and am working on losing the weight for both aesthetic and health reasons. To give you an idea, I currently weight 265 and my end goal weight is 175. I am working with my doctor, a nutritionist, and a trainer to reach this and have already made progress. But if this isn’t something you’d want to be around for, or I’m just not your type that’s fine. Please don’t waste both of our time by making fun of my weight or mocking my efforts to become a better me. I know how easy that can be done through a screen and a keyboard.

If you actually read all of this rambling mess and any of it resonated with you, shoot me a message and we can chat. No expectations, just a friendly exchanging of words.