So my fiancé (37M) and I (22F) have a pretty traditional relationship. He works and I stay home. We both wanted kids so bad, we tried for about a year and now I’m finally pregnant. But now that I’m pregnant l’m starting to realize what a vulnerable financial situation I’m bringing our baby into.

I don’t have a job and am not currently in school. I’ve completed 2 years of college, but only the gen ed stuff. My fiancé is hardworking and I know he’d never cheat on me or leave me, but his job is dangerous and if something happens to him, I’ll have no way to support myself and our baby.

I won’t be able to work or go back to school until our baby is old enough to go to daycare, childcare is insanely expensive and we don’t have any family support. My family is across the country and even if they were close they wouldn’t help, my mom is furious that I’m pregnant and I haven’t even told my dad yet. His mom lives close by but she’s older and a bit forgetful and also has her own things she does.

I just feel so selfish and like a horrible mother and person. I was so blinded by my desire to have kids and to please my fiancé that I didn’t fully think things through and what would be best for our baby.

Whenever I bring these feelings up to my fiancé, he sort of just brushes me off. He tells me that he loves me and that it’s not selfish to want kids, but it doesn’t make me feel better because the fact remains that if something happens to him, our baby and I will be on the streets.