When people talk about their spouse they sometimes call them their "other half". I don't know how many people really feel that way but the phrase resonates with me in a very profound way. I'm looking for the woman that can complete me, the person who when we are together will be part of a whole that is so much more than either of us alone.

The women I've been with in my life have just not fit quite right so far, but here's hoping that she is out there and that maybe she will take the time to read my message and find me after all.

Please enjoy a little music to help set the mood while you read.

About Me

What what can I say to sum up myself? I'm a geeky foodie who loves to travel. I'm a self made man who busted my ass all though my 20s at tech startups to have a successful career as a computer engineer and now I can afford to travel the world and work only part time on the projects I am interested in. I've worked hard to establish the life I wanted, now I just need the right person to settle down share it all with. In my spare time I play badminton and ttrpgs with friends. I want to fill my days wandering the streets of new cities and fill my nights cooking a meal and cuddling up to watch a movie with someone special. I like getting high and reading fantasy novels, I like single stuffed Oreos more than double stuffed (crazy, I know), I like getting pretty kinky (what do you think, cuffs or ropes?), I love going on a date to a museum.

I'm fluent in English. I speak some Mandarin, and some Spanish. I've lived in 3 countries, I've visited many more. My favorite author is Terry Pratchett, my favorite movie is either The Blues Brothers or Pulp Fiction (hard to choose just one).

Some of my bucket list items:

• See a Blue Whale
• Take a stunt driving course
• Become fluent in Mandarin (I know enough now that I can order food and get around)
• Camp out under the northern lights

What I'm Looking For

I'm not sure that this community is the right place to post my personal ad. I'm sure there are some who will say it definitely isn't, but it may be the closest thing I've found so I'm giving it a try.

There are many things I desire that align with the idea of a "traditional relationship". I want a partner that is willing to dedicate herself entirely to me, to become my most loved, most cherished possession, to become my support and my comfort while I provide her leadership stability and protection. I desire a relationship built on trust and love and a mutual understanding of each other's responsibilities and each other's place in the home.

At the same time there are things that I would want to be less traditional about my future relationship. I am not completely decided, but for now I think I don't want to have children. I don't think it will come as a shock to anyone here, but I am pretty kinky and I want a partner who is eager to satisfy my desires and be available to me when I need her physically. Politics don't interest me; actually I think it might be more accurate to say that I am actively disinterested in them. I'm not a member of any political party and don't particularly identify with any. I suppose my political opinions align somewhat with libertarians and somewhat with social liberals.

My Kinky Nature

For the kinky and the curious: I like having passionate rough sex (choking, pulling hair, slapping , spanking, throwing you around, and so on). I love seeing my partner tied up and helpless beneath me. I enjoy bondage, free use, deep-throating, begging, controlling your orgasms (edging, denial, forcing you to cum), sensory play, body writing, and some discrete public play (hidden toys, making you take off your panties under the table, code-word instructions, things like that). I like being in control. I love to play with the psychological aspects of a D/s dynamic; fining out what turns you on, which punishments you enjoy, which ones you hate, and how to use that knowledge to get you deeper under my control. I want to turn you on, to make you want me so much it hurts, and sometimes hurt you so much you want me. I enjoy all the toys, apparatus, and devices, but you'd be amazed at what I can do with nothing more than a belt and a blindfold.

I'm not interested in play involving diapers, urine, feces, blood, or anything overly filthy. I'm not into doing anything that will cause permanent injuries or long lasting marks. I'm not interested in any scenes or scenarios that involve sharing my woman with other men.

Nothing is more of a turn-on for me than being with someone who's greatest desire is to please me. A good partner will earn my respect and adoration. I will cherish her as my most prized possession and do my best to take care of her and use her every day. I am pretty laid back, but I can get serious when I need to be. I'm not someone that is extremely aggressive or will ignore you and treat you like shit (maybe occasionally if that's something you like), so if that's the kind of thing you want on a regular basis we probably won't be a great fit.

If there's anything else you want to know, just ask me!

About You

Could you be the woman of my dreams? Well you've read this far so that's a good start.

Some things that might mean we would be a good fit:

• You are intelligent and creative. You have at least one creative hobby (drawing, writing, baking, playing an instrument, whatever). I don't care how good you are, just that you enjoy it and keep practicing.
• You want nothing more than pleasing your partner and bringing value to his life, earning his praise and love every day.
• You are 21-35 years old.
• You believe that being submissive is not the same thing as being passive. You want to bring value and excitement into a relationship
• You like to cuddle up and watch movies. (and talk about them at length together)
• You like to go out and try new restaurants. Everything from fancy Micheline stared dining to a grease stained hole in the wall.
• You do not feel the need to compulsively photograph every meal you eat and post it on social media.
• You love to travel and try new things.
• This is you and this is how you want to spend your evenings.

It's not much fun talking about the negative stuff, but I don't want to waste anyone's time here so these are my deal-breakers. If any of these apply to you then we aren't going to be able have a good relationship together.

• You are vegetarian or vegan. Cooking and traveling are important to me and both pursuits are severely limited by a vegetarian diet. (If you are seafood only we can talk)
• You already have kids
• You are older than me

Boring logistical stuff

I am open to meeting someone from just about anywhere in the world. I currently work remotely and I'm a bit of a nomad. It's pretty easy for me to travel to a new city for a few weeks or months so I'm happy to go wherever to meet someone interesting. The way I see it it's not uncommon for someone to be willing to relocate for their career so why wouldn't I be willing to do the same to find the right person for me. I'm not looking to rush into anything too fast, but I also don't want to waste a bunch of time once we've made a connection so we can talk and see if there's a spark then we can plan on meeting in person as soon as is reasonable to find out if we have good chemistry. I could be happy continuing to travel and be a nomad, but I think I would like to try to settle down somewhere into a more permanent situation if I can find the right place for me. I can help you relocate if that's what we decide to do together.

If you are interested send me a message and we can trade pictures and get to know each other. You can view my previous personal ad to see more details about my interests and my kinks. I travel often so sometimes there can be a bit of a delay before I respond.

I'm looking forward to hearing from you!