I got married at 20. Dropped out of college. My wife and I both worked. We saved up for a year, and then decided to have a baby. My wife never worked again. She ran the household, homeschooled the kids, supported me in my career. She was my equal in all ways, and we made all major decisions together. After kid #4 (11 years in), she got bored. She regretted only ever being with me. She wanted to explore. So I let her explore. She found someone she thought was more exciting, and asked me for a divorce a year later.

So I found a new wife. She quit her very stressful job and stayed at home for 2 years. She was kind of terrible at running the household, and super bored staying home. So we talked about it, and she got a job. Things are different now, because she works because it's what she wants to do with her time, and we don't need the money at all. So she has the power at work. If they want her to do something she doesn't want to do, she says no. What are they going to do? Fire her? The money doesn't matter, so who cares.

She's also, super submissive by nature. She doesn't want to make any decisions ever (which is why she was terrible at running the household). It was weird for me at first, because I was used to making decisions together with my spouse. But when my wife literally needs me to choose which vegetable we are having with dinner... 🤷‍♂️. I honestly like it a lot now. She looooves it when I pick out her clothes for her in the morning. And I love it when she wears the sexy clothes I picked out for her.

We just had a baby a few months ago. It's amazing. I love teaching her all the little things about how to take care of a baby. I'm an amazing dad. Love babies more than anything.

We hired a nanny and house manager to take care of all the things wife 2.0 doesn't want to do. We want to have a couple more kids.

I love wife 2.0 and she's amazing in so many ways. I definitely don't plan on ever getting a divorce. But there are some things missing. I enjoy making all the decisions. But sometimes I could use some support. And she's bad at that. She can be bad at conversation. There are some places where we don't line up super well sexually. That's all stuff that I can live with.

But something interesting happened earlier this year. My wife got super turned on when I made a joke about getting another wife when she couldn't have babies anymore. "Why wait that long?" she asked. I mean, that was hot, but very much came out of nowhere. I laughed, but it seemed more sincere than a joke. I waited a week and then asked her about it. I asked if that was just a sexual fantasy, or if it was something she'd actually be into. Turns out she's into it. And honestly I am too.

So that's my back story. I obviously have some wants in a new wife, but I don't want to put anyone into a box. I want you to live a happy fulfilling life in whatever way makes sense for everyone involved. Maybe that's a second household. Maybe we have one big household. Maybe it's more poly oriented.

My semi-arbitrary wants:

• you are very intelligent. I tend to not get along super well with people who can't keep up with me.

• you want to have kids. Lots of kids.

• it excites you to organize and run a home. I'm great a playing support and helping make decisions. But running a home on top of my work makes my head spin.

• you can have a calm, rational conversation when you are upset. If you yell when you're upset, it's not going to work out.

• you can apologize when you are wrong. People do stupid stuff sometimes. I will. You will. I need someone with enough emotional intelligence to recognize when you screwed up, and apologize for it. I will definitely do the same.

What I bring to the table:

• you don't need to worry about money. I started with nothing, and now have a great career and a decent nest egg. Bonus: I work from home

• I love kids. Especially babies. And I'm great with them. I don't shy away from parenting - I fully embrace it. I want as many kids as possible.

• I'm intelligent, empathetic, kind, generous, decisive. I'm doing very well in my career because those are the leadership qualities I bring with me. Those are the same qualities that make me a great husband and dad.

• I love eating pussy. Sorry, I know that one was out of left field. My wife has a thing about tongues, and really doesn't like kissing or licking in any way. It kind of drives me nuts. My ex-wife loved it. If that's something you are into (I think most women are...) then that's a definite plus for both of us.

Some things I want to be clear on:

• you don't need to be submissive. I'm happy either way

• I want this to make you happy as much as it makes me happy

• I don't have a picture of the perfect woman in my head. This could look like anything.