Hi there!

Do you like talking about everything under the sun? Can your opinions about the world stretch to several paragraphs (or even pages)? Do you like serving up a little spunk with your submission as you settle to your knees before your Dom? If so, read on!

I'm Chris, 29, and I currently work as a software engineer and moonlight as the chief designer for a game design company - something I’m trying to turn into a full-time gig. I’m looking for a serious D/s relationship - duh, you’re probably thinking - which, to me, means a long-term, monogamous relationship where we live that DINK lifestyle with my dog Tony and whatever pets you may have or not have. If, after a few convos, it becomes apparent we’re not compatible, no harm no foul - I certainly wouldn’t say no to more kinky friends!

Without further ado, let me introduce myself.

About Me - Physically:

I've got a bit of pudge going on that I'm slowly working off - weekly fencing lessons, bowling Friday nights with my buddies and just working out at home have provided a solid start. I'm 5'7"-5'8" (one of my legs is shorter than the other, which makes measuring hard), just under 170 lbs as I write this, white, with dark eyes and red hair. My sense of fashion tends to alternate between "work casual" (a nice shirt and jeans), and weird graphic tees, but I clean up pretty well and can definitely rock a suit.

About Me - Mentally:

I'm not perfect - I have some generalized anxiety and depression. That being said, I'm more than happy to provide you with all the reassurance and help you want or need - one of my favorite phrases is "how can I help?". More than that, though, I use BDSM as a way to build my sub up and turn her into both the best version of herself and ultimately the person she wants to be.

I'm not religious - I was raised Catholic, but several unexpected deaths in the family caused me to step away from religion.

Most of my hobbies are creative - I like to design games, paint, cook and bake. I'm a huge fan of video and tabletop games - I've got a dual-monitor setup in my garage office space, which I'm also working to turn into a hobby space with a gaming table and painting station.

About Me - Sexually:

I tend to identify myself as "cuddly Dom". Like I said above, BDSM for me is a lot more about building my sub up than anything else. That doesn't mean that I don't have a well-hidden sadist streak. :)

I'd absolutely love to give you hard, passionate kisses - the kind that make you shiver and your toes curl. The kind that you remember for the rest of the day, the kind where a smile lights your lips every time you think back to it.

In terms of kinks, I'd love to try CNC and spanking after safewords have been discussed and trust has been established. Other kinks I enjoy include DD/LG (as long as there's no age regression/pacifiers/ABDL), begging (receiving), anal, bondage, and orgasm play/denial.

My limits include blood, scat, puke, diapers, age regression, bestiality, knives, needles anything illegal or that causes permanent harm to you or me.

In terms of our relationship, I’ve always been drawn toward a mix of the 1950s dynamic and what I call “rational TPE”: I want someone to come home to, someone who thrives on turning my house into a home. I want to devise rules for you - things that we come up with together so that 1) they actually help you and 2) you actually follow them. Because what’s the point of coming up with rules if they don’t help you get better? Mostly, though, I want to make you feel safe, secure, and valued.

I'm very big on communicating, so you can be sure if something comes up that's suddenly not okay, I'd bring it up and I'd expect my partner to do the same. When it comes to scenes, I typically use the stoplight system - if you have a specific safeword you prefer, absolutely let me know!

About Me - The Other Stuff:

I’m independent, own my own condo without roommates, take care of a terrier mix, contribute to a retirement fund, etc. About the only thing I don’t do is drive - I just am not comfortable behind the wheel of a car. Ideally, you’d be in a similar stage of life, sans the not-driving bit. If it gets to the point where we’re meeting up IRL, public transpo and ride-shares make it a non-issue.

In my spare time, I game a ton - PC, tabletop, you name it. I also design games, both as an intellectual exercise and because, in some cases, the game I want to play doesn't exist, so why not make it?

I'm also a huge, huge foodie - cooking is how I relieve anger and frustration, and I will happily feed you everything from cheesecake to goulash to nachos to steak. Maybe we can cook together, or, if cooking’s not your thing, perch on the counter and tell me about your day.

I like to pamper my partners by going on day-trips to places like the aquarium and the museum -- exhibits that offer interactive, adult-oriented experiences. To me, part of having a partner means having someone in my life that really enjoys learning new things with me and improving ourselves together.

Speaking of learning new things, I'd love to teach you to paint miniatures or play Warhammer 40,000 or Dungeons and Dragons - so it would be great if you have an interest in tabletop games.

I promised myself when I sat down that I wouldn't write a novel, so I'm going to cut myself off now. Feel free to delve through my posting history, though.

If you like what you read, shoot me a message - I look forward to hearing from you!

Best, Chris