FH is the best man in his friend's wedding coming up this weekend. The couple in question is DIYing the entire wedding to keep costs low and the venue is a farm/ranch land with a few cabins. We already knew FH, along with the rest of the wedding party (6 people total), would show up the day before the wedding to help with set up for the entire day to put up tents, string lights, tables, etc. Last week, the couple asked the wedding party who would be spending the night at the venue so they can figure out who's staying in what cabin. FH and I declined for both Friday and Saturday nights because we live 30 minutes from the venue. Because FH is the only one in the wedding party that won't be staying at the venue on Friday night, he gets to pick up the keg (that won't be tapped until the evening) and some other things on Saturday.

Today, the couple sent out each person in the wedding party their duties for the weekend. The task items for Saturday AND Sunday are unbelievable. None of this was communicated until today. On Saturday, FH is expected to be at the venue by 11am to help with day-of setup (table decorations, sound system, etc.) until mid-afternoon when they start getting ready for the evening ceremony. After the ceremony, FH will help the groom mix the signature cocktail. Shortly after the reception dinner starts, FH is responsible for playing music playlists throughout the evening, including queuing the music special dances, when the hired band isn't playing. At the end of the night (whenever that is... the timeline literally has 11pm-??? for the last music), FH is responsible for moving the sound system indoors. Then, finally, he gets to go home. Seriously, WTF is the rest of the wedding party doing??

Clean up starts on Sunday at 7am. SEVEN IN THE MORNING. FH is also expected to return the keg and rented sound system on Monday because the couple's honeymoon flight leaves on Monday morning. So, here we have four days of labor.

Last weekend, FH and I were trying to figure out our carpooling plans but this timeline pretty much sealed the deal on us driving separately to and from the venue.

Here's the icing on this cake: FH paid for their entire all-day bachelor/bachelorette joint party that the groom and bride planned. It wasn't asked of FH to do this but he did because the rest of the wedding party (mostly the bride's side) sucks. The wedding party dropped the ball on planning and on the day-of, no one offered to pay for the bride/groom... so FH picked up the tab on everything. At the end of that night, the groom gave FH a backhanded compliment about how FH paid for everything as if he has something to prove to the world. WTF.

Ugh, I'm just upset for my FH. My outlook on my wedding party is to inconvenience them as little as possible so all this is just unbelievable for me.

tl;dr: FH is the best man in a wedding where he's being told to do waaaaaaay too much and everything has been communicated last minute. Bride/grooms, don't take advantage of your friends.