Okay, so I don't want to sound like an asshole, but I am really at the end of my rope. My friend, we'll call them Link (26-NB) for today, and I have known each other a long time. We met at 14 in high school. We were great friends all through school, though there was a group of three of us which included my other friend, we'll call her Sage (26F). I was always better friends with Sage, but we were kinda like the three musketeers through high school. Sage diatanced herself from high school friends in Senior year because of personal reasons (whole other story)

So, I stayed friends with just Link and it was totally fine for a long time, we didn't talk all the time or see each other every day, but we were friends. We went to different colleges but made time. After a few years, we decided it would be a good idea to move in together as roommates, so we found a place between our two jobs. We lived there for a year and it was painless. We had some disagreements, but generally pleasant. When it came time to renew the lease, I was tired of living almost an hour from my work, and wanted a new place in that city. Link wanted to move with me, since it was going well us living together. We found a new place in the city, but Link didn't find a job there right away.

I would have been fine with a month or two, but they had no job for over six months. Not because they couldn't find something, they weren't looking. Link said "I have some savings and I'm just enjoying not working right now" Which is very irresponsible for like a 23 year old, in my opinion, but I let them do what they wanted. But Link is a very introverted person, and never left the house. Except for groceries, was always home. Started driving me crazy, and I was doing anything I could to avoid them and stay out of the house.

For context, I am a gay man, and Link is non-binary and ace/aro. I wanted to be bringing people back from time to time, but there was never any opportunity. Our bedrooms shared a thin wall and I felt suffocated. They did eventually get a job and the pressure was less, but I was so annoyed by the fact they did that, I didn't want to live together any more. I wanted to try to get back to being friends, not just coexisting.

So, when the lease was up, we parted ways. Amicable. Since then, I haven't seen much of Link, but we chat occasionally, meet for dinner now and then, and see each other at paties or friend group things. The thing is, Link is not a social person. No real new friends since high school, and never dating since they aren't interested. I have been pretty busy with work and not having much of a personal life either, not judging, just giving background. Now we come to the straw that broke the camel's back: vacation.

I haven't been on a nice, relaxing, beach vacation in over 6 years and I am wanting to go, so I pitch the idea of a friend trip to my group of friends. They semeed excited at the prospect, but when it came time to plan, all had reasons not to. Except for me and Link. We were able to get a great deal on a week long all inclusive vacation to Mexico, with about $1k per person. (Flights and everything) We were both excited, and decided to do a scuba excursion while down here. .

The issue now, is that I want to do things, and they are being a lump on a log. I'm sitting at the pool bar, talking and making new friends, going to the beach, sitting in the sun, making the most of our limited time here. Link has been in the room, laying in bed, on their phone almost the whole time.

The trip down was weird and tense to me, we barely spoke to each other, sitting in silence even when awake and not having headphones in. And the meals we have shared while here have been the same. No conversation. I tried on the way down to come up with topics, but there's nothing I can ask them about their life that I don't already know. The opposite is not true. They asked if I was still seeing the guy I'd been dating, I said no. Link asked zero follow up questions, didn't even say "I'm sorry to hear that."

My irritation is at an all time high and we still have 2 and a half days together. I do not want to be in the same space as them at all, I'm so frustrated that feel like I wasted this trip on them, and I'm kicking myself for not bringing another friend to cut the tension. I don't know how I'm going to get through this trip without going off on them. I understand that communication is a two way street, and made many attempts to get a conversation started, just to be met with one sentence answers with no follow up.

I don't think I want to be friends anymore over this, and the worst part is that I can't even tell if Link understands how incredibly angry I am. They're incapable of picking up on cues, even though I've been clearly avoiding them. I just don't need to have this argument here, where we can't get away from each other.

TLDR; my friend and I are on vacation and it's just tense and awkward, with nothing to talk about, literally radio silence between us. They are barely leaving the room and not interested in activities at the all inclusive resort