So, I've been searching for some people to chat with, and I've been struggling to find people I really click with. I kinda just want to toss this post up on my profile, like the other one, so I can kinda say what (I think) I'm looking for, without having to be explicit about it in a way that makes things less fun for me. So, same as before, don't mention that you've read this post to me.

So, first and foremost, when it comes to interacting with guys, I really really lean hard towards a noncon type dynamic. I want the guy to be pushy and demeaning and focused on breaking me. My inner brat really doesn't do easy submission, and I really do need to be battered down a bit before I'll admit to liking or wanting anything. I like the struggle. I like the hunt. I like knowing that you have a goal you're pushing towards and that you're determined to break me down until you get it. I don't really care about respect, at least at first. I just want to know that you want me as a toy and you're going to keep pushing until I inevitably crumble and give in. I don't necessarily want to make that easy for you, but sometimes if I'm horny out of my mind, I can't help it.

But how to make that happen? I don't know, this is still a work in progress and me figuring myself out. But there are some things that tend to really get me wet.

• Fear, anger, and emotion are big ones. I know a lot of doms prefer to be aloof and above the struggle, but that's kind of the opposite of what gets me going. I love the struggle. I love feeling hunted. I love feeling a little afraid. I brat because I'm actively trying to make you angry, because I want to tremble while you yell threats at me. Getting mad is good. Making me squirm with fear is even better. I think some of the wettest I've ever been chatting have been from good blackmail threats. I'm not necessarily into playing out blackmail, and I'm definitely not into consensual blackmail, but there have been a couple of times where someone made a decent threat or made me think they actually knew something about me, and it about broke my mind. Of course, it doesn't have to be blackmail, but genuine emotion and anger also works to make me feel small and afraid sometimes, and I love that.

• Likewise, the feeling of being hunted. Not necessarily literally, but knowing that my partner has plans for me and a goal they want to push me towards does so much for me. I talk in the other post about setting small goals and getting small victories to gloat and push me further, but just knowing that you have a plan really gets under my skin. I'm normally pretty good at spotting manipulation and whatnot, but that just gets me wetter, so I really can't complain. Even if I do spot it, I'll normally just play along and work with you, to a certain extent. I still really can't just roll over for it, but I do appreciate a good fiction and figleaf and I won't normally push back against it in a meta sort of way. So manipulate and mindfuck away. Have a goal you want to push me towards, and I'll slowly start to crumble.

• Don't bother being nice to me. At least not at first. Definitely not at first. I want you to be dangerous. I want to be used and humiliated and degraded and raped. Come out the gate making that clear in your first message. You don't even really have to introduce yourself or sell me on you as a person. A victim doesn't have to get friendly with her rapist, and it really makes you stand out from the crowd if you just go for it right from the start. That's not to say we can never connect on a deeper level, but it really catches my attention and my interest when someone goes hard right away. Be abusive, be degrading, be angry, be smug. Set out the bait and get me hooked first, and then we can get to know each other.

• Have faith in the fact that I'm a hopeless slut. So, my big limits are toilet stuff, heavy pain/gore, and maybe scent/smells. My minor not-really-limits-but-I-find-them-really-boring are being called ugly/worthless/etc. and most blatant raceplay. For being called ugly/worthless/etc, it's always just felt really artificial. If you really thought that, we wouldn't be talking has always been my reaction to that, so it just feels dull to me. As for raceplay, I like the idea. I like humiliation and degradation. I'm down with it in theory. But I've been called basically every slur in a dozen different languages. I've seen every bizarre rice or chopsticks-based insult you can think of. It's been played out. Unless you have some really creative take on it, you're better off picking another avenue. (That being said, more subtle types of objectification can be cool, as a sort of flavor. It's just when it's just nothing but raceplay with the same language and slurs and nothing else that really bores me). But, that's my big discussion about limits and things I'm not super into. Most anything else, feel free to hit me with. I'll be bratty and be all like "ewww, you want me to wear a leash and keep me chained up naked? That's so gross" but I'll be lying. I'll probably be very wet at the idea, but being a lying little bitch about it. You'll have to break me down to get me to admit it, but it's very doable. You don't need to check in with me though about it. Just keep pushing forward. If it's really something that makes me uncomfortable, I'll either be very turned on at the novelty or I'll give you some sort of serious ooc parenthetical (Yo, this is actually weird for me, let's change tracks). If I'm not doing that, feel free to assume I'm a dirty whore who loves it and keep pushing.

• Similarly, make me admit things. Like, the bratting struggle in a text-based conversation is tricky, I'm very well aware. I absolutely won't be admitting things right off the bat, but if you want a goal to start breaking me down with, making me admit stuff is good. Make me admit I'm wet. Make me admit I'm touching myself. Send me a gif and make me admit it turns me on. Make me admit what sort of porn I look at, or the last post I touched myself to. It's the sort of thing you can batter me down with, and then use my admission to make me admit to more things, and just generally batter me down with that. Not being honest is a very central part of my bratting, so taking the fight to me on that level is generally pretty good.

So, yeah, good god, that's a long post. Hopefully it isn't too bad to read? But if you want to know a little bit more about what I like and what I'm looking for, there's a novel for you. I know this whole conceit is kinda self-centered, and I absolutely know this isn't a dynamic that everyone enjoys. I know this isn't necessarily reasonable, but it is sort of the perfect dynamic that I'm looking for. No worries if it's not something you're interested in, or if you started reading and went "who the fuck does this dumb whore think she is, writing this shit" (oh, actually, calling me stupid and low-IQ bimbo type insults have been really interesting to me lately, so feel free to actually do that), but if you started reading this and thought it was over the top, you're absolutely right. I know this is a super unreasonable huge post to make.

But it's the sort of thing I'm looking for in an ideal world, and I want to make that clear. If it's not for you, then it's not for you and I don't blame you or judge you for it. But if you think you might enjoy the fight, I hope this gives you some sort of idea of what exactly I'm looking for. Thanks for reading <3