I've been wanting to write this for awhile, but just haven't had time till now, so here it is!

This post is specifically for people who write to us (or other posters/content creators!) looking to meet up. As you can imagine, we often get a LOT of messages like that. 

Sometimes, especially after a r4r type post, we get 200-300 messages in a single day. And we've had tons of luck meeting people, especially redditors!, so while it definitely works, the vast majority of messages we get are just straight-to-garbage-junk, so I wanted to spend a little time and provide some tips and guidance for anyone who is reaching out in hopes of helping them increase their chances. I hope this helps you all!

I think there are 9 main things we look for when we get messages. At least to some extent, all 9 of these things are true for everyone we've ever met up with. They break out like this: 

1. Don't send one-word messages. This is probably the single worst one. Seriously half of our messages are just "hi" or "hey" or "sup".  And a single line like, "I'd love to meet up" is only marginally better, but still not good enough. It won't kill you to spend just 1-2 minutes coming up with something better than this. We will never respond to a one-word message, and every single other poster or content creator we've ever asked won't either. This will never, ever work. Please stop doing it. 

2. Similar to #1, don't just send a dick pic (or, really, any pic!). We love getting dick pics, and are 100% OK with it! BUT unless you have a 12" cock (and even then), we are never responding to just a dick pic. Same is mostly true for any other picture. If we just get a picture of a good-looking guy, sure, that's great, but we have no idea what you're looking for, who you are, where you are, so it does us no good. Pictures will absolutely help you stand out, but you have to have more than just that! Also, if you are sending a dick pic, you should be sure whoever you're sending it to is OK with them. Just because someone posts porn doesn't mean they want to see your dick, so don't be a jerk. 

3. Building on the above, DO include pics when you can! As I mentioned, pics help you stand out, so if you can include them, do! We've gotten messages from people who are uncomfortable sending certain types of pictures (like face pics), which we understand. But be prepared to share them at some point, because we (and most other people) will not meet someone without seeing a face pic first. Besides, it can be a fully clothed picture, so it won't get you into trouble. Additionally, body pics are always nice, too, but again, remember to get people's OK before sending any nudes (you have our blanket consent there! 😂)

4. Don't send the exact same message to a bunch of people. Lots of posters and content creators talk to each other, so when you do that, we know. In fact, we've gotten at least one message where the person even forgot to change the name of someone they'd previously sent it to, which isn't a good look! Again, if you're already putting forth the effort to message someone, and you want them to spend time reading it and considering you, take a couple minutes to make some effort. 

5. Respect what the person(s) you're messaging to is looking for. For example, we only look for bi people, which we've made pretty clear, but we get tons of messages from guys who start with, "I'm straight, but I don't mind if there's another guy there" or something like that. You're obviously not for us. We also get a lot of messages that say, "your wife", which really bugs me! Have I not been clear that I'm the one who runs the account? This is just a huge red flag that you've never bothered reading any of our posts or even titles! And that's an instant turn-off. Also, if someone says, for example, "we're only looking for local people", don't write saying, "I'm 6 hours away, but don't mind traveling". Just simple listening will go a long way!

6. On the opposite side of #5, also include information about what YOU are looking for. It really speeds up the process if we know what you're into, what you want to try, what experience you have, etc. We're not put off if you have little or no experience, in fact we sometimes like that, but sometimes we just wanna get down and don't want to take things slow. Sharing what your boundaries are can also allow for better experiences. Sharing a little about you can also help us see whether we have common interests and that sort of thing. 

7. Your 2nd grade teacher was right: spelling and grammar are important. If we have to try to decipher what you're trying to say, we probably aren't going to respond (within reason! We get that English isn't everyone's first language). But we've definitely rejected people in the past for not even bothering to type out full words (like "you" vs. "u"). This one is more an us thing...I don't know if other people care also, but I'm willing to bet a message that's well-written is much more likely to get a response than one that isn't.

8. Finally, it's always nice to let them know what's in it for them. Especially when we're looking for a single guy, this is a good tip. It'll help you stand out by including certain things that might appeal to a poster or content creator. For example, if you're also a creator, you can talk about your own following and how there might be some "cross appeal" between your followers and theirs. Perhaps you have a friend or two you can bring along. Maybe you can cum multiple times, on demand! Or you're a videographer and can help with camera angles and that sort of thing. It doesn't have to be anything amazing, but something that makes you even more appealing than the next person.

9. Perhaps most important of all, don't be a flake. Life happens, and we all get that. We've had to cancel dates, and we've had dates canceled on us, and we don't get mad or anything as long as you're not a jerk about it. Let us know in advance if you need to cancel. And that's true even if you get cold feet! We once had someone come over, chat, and as we were already naked, they told us, "actually, I'm way too nervous and I don't think I can do it". We totally respected that! Sure, we were bummed, but not in any way upset. In fact, after they got a bit more experience under their belt, they reached back out and we had a great time! However, if you simply don't show, if you don't message us at all (or until well after), you will be permanently blacklisted, and we'll tell as many of our friends as possible that you're a waste of time. Again, this one also goes back to what might be an underlying thread in all of these: don't be a jerk. 

Bonus: don't message us on behalf of someone who doesn't know you're messaging us. This one is less common, but not rare by any means, but we get messages (almost always from husbands or boyfriends) who clearly don't have their partner's OK. More than once, we've even been asked if we can meet them at a bar and try to seduce their unsuspecting wife or girlfriend, and that's just gross and inconsiderate. Similarly, don't message someone as a couple only to later say something like, "actually, my wife is busy that day, but I can still come" or something like that. Also gross. 

I think that's all I got! If I think of any others, I'll add 'em. And similarly, if there's anything I've missed, or if you have any questions about any of the above, let us know! In the meantime, good luck out there!

P.S.  A few pics included just for fun. 

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