I just told my long time girlfriend (3 years) that I was probably going to get on mtf HRT soon. She was really quiet, and then asked what exactly that would mean, and then she started crying.

Here's a little background; She's been really supportive of my decision to transition and agrees I would be happier. Thankfully she didn't try to talk me out of it or gaslight me, and told me i should go for it. Buuuut, it's been really hard on our relationship. She is really straight, and loves the nuclear family ideal. Having two moms for our future children just doesn't fit with her picture of the future. Nor does having a woman for a partner.

At first--months ago--I was really empathetic to her concerns, but this reaction kind of made me angry and upset. When I told my other friends, their reactions were all supportive, excited, or funny. But she just started crying like it was the end of the fucking world. I've been comforting her through some of the earlier steps, telling her everything would work out fine. But I feel so done comforting her, like she's the one going through all the trauma and life changes.

I honestly just feel like I'm not allowed to express these feelings to anyone I know. The two of us share all of our friends. I needed this safe space on Reddit.

I don't really have a specific question, but I would love any thoughts or advice.