So I’ve (F, 23) have been seeing this awesome guy for about two months now. He’s happy to be seen out in public with me, he’s a very giving lover, and is outward about the fact that he sleeps with trans women to others. Yesterday we had sex for the first time (this is gonna be TMI sorry!) we were getting past foreplay into anal and we kept trying but we couldn’t get it in. He was like “this angle isn’t working for me” and I was just like “oh okay I guess we can try another.” He responded by saying (I think he thought he was reassuring me for some reason) “even when I fuck women it’s like this” and oof did that bring up severe dysphoria. I immediately shut down / felt very insecure and self conscious. He could tell something was wrong and at first I brushed it off but eventually told him how I was feeling / asked what he had meant. The most embarrassing part was I started tearing up / a few tears spilled over. He was very kind about it, we talked it out and he apologized. He let me know it was a conditioning thing seeing my anatomy, when he said “women” he told me he meant “cis women” but still… I feel like I’ve been internalizing since. I just feel like crap, I feel lame wanting to asking him if he sees me as a woman for reassurance but I’m like should we just break up? Would love advice.