About me : So I am an Indian living outside the country, and my gf is still in india. We are in love since 2018 but I never told my family about it. I thought it wouldn’t be such big of an issue though she is a different cast bcz even my folks are different cast and loved each other. However, we are not in touch with my mom’s side of the family.

Beginning of this month I told my parents and I was met with a lot different kind of reaction than I had expected. Both of them were shocked and my mom outright said No because of ….. wait for it …… a different cast. Anyway I still tried to explain them how much I love her and how thats the only person I can imagine my life with, discussion ended there after an hour back and forth, my dad was lot calmer tho.

There were few fights here and there, but today my mom called and still the same old fight, I lost my calm and told her “why are you forcing me to leave someone I love so much, did I ever tell you to leave dad ?” This was the fuck up because I never ever imagined what she was about to say.

She said, I told your dad I was years ago that I want to leave you, and your son but since he is still a kid and needs me I will stay but i will leave all of you once he is married. And she apparently told dad after I told them this, since I am gonna marry the girl I love and planning to settle here in abroad, she will not leave us because she will need to take Care of my dad. I was shocked, devastated and I just realised this entire time the person I respected the most in my life was there only because she thought it was her responsibility. I did not say a word and hung up the phone. I dont even know how to feel…

Sorry if this was not the right sub, I just wanted to tell someone but I cant.

TLDR: Mom told me her plan to leave me and my dad and blamed everything on love marriage.

Edit: Guys, I am so thankful to all of you. I have read all the comments and feel confident that I am doing the right thing. Thanks again gents.

Update: Spoke to my dad, he said he doesn’t have a problem if I am sure, however he is bit upset that its not going as he imagined. He said mom will be fine after a while, she was just being crazy and doesn’t mean any of it. He assured me that nothing will happen against my will, even though they are unhappy they will be fine as the time pass.