Sorry it's long. Please no rudeness, I'm at a loss and asking. I'm posting this after some attempts at advice from all the groups I'm in on here and on Facebook. My hubby and I have talked in length. It started out as one thing and then conversation went to another. We're all new to this and my confidence is very low when it comes to new things. If I understand correctly it is a taboo topic when it comes to unicorns, even though there are so many groups. But anyway they are ladies that have no emotional connection to the couple, where as a throuple or poly group is emotional as well as everyone in a relationship with each other and separately? Please correct me if I'm wrong. My main question though is how? How do you find someone? I'm bi curious and he is straight. A threesome was the first thing that was talked about, but if it turns into more that is ok. But the way I am, I wanted to get to know someone a bit first and them us. Is that wrong? Is very hard to find anyone that ain't a scam, let alone to talk to first. My husband has told me to get out there and even go on dates, which I would if I could. Help? Anyone?