My partner and I have been exploring Tantra together for about 6 months. I’m fairly new to it, though he’s been a Tantrika for 15 years and I have been a Buddhist with a deeply spiritual meditation practice for 25 years.

I’ve never been one to believe in the metaphysical, I approach transcendence from a neurobiological perspective of altering states of awareness to reach transcendental moments of connective and hallucinatory states of awe. But I’m finding it harder and harder to explain the intense levels of connection in our tantric play and rituals, and especially being able to sense and share energetic experiences when we aren’t even in the same physical space.

I understand things like time dilation, sharing physical sensations, hyper awareness during the dopamine peak to extend orgasmic states, and reaching hallucinatory transcendence through tantric rituals. However, I can’t seem to understand how we can both reach spontaneous orgasms just from both of us pressing our hearts together, or the unexplainable feeling of intense energetic connections that feel like twin flames mirrored in each of us. I especially can’t explain feeling otherworldly sensations like sudden heat, warmth, and affection emanating from my heart chakra and him feeling it at the same time even when we aren’t anywhere near each other.

He says he hasn’t had this type of tantric dynamic in many years, but did have a partner once where they had energetic connections like this before. I’m curious if others have had experiences like this, and especially seeking perspectives from other scientifically minded folks like me who have had experiences we can’t explain.