Hi everyone

I would like to gift my long-term partner a tantric/yoni massage with a professional as I would not have a problem with her experiencing this, as I feel secure in our relationship but do not have the skill to do this myself.

Neither of us has any prior experience nor much knowledge on this.

Perusing the local websites offering such services usually clearly shows which places are serious and which places are pure SW and probably won't provide a professional experience.

I have several questions:

• are tantric and yoni massages the same thing for women?

• is there a consensus on the recommended gender for the therapist? I feel like my partner would perhaps have a stronger experience with a male therapist, but she may be reluctant to go with one

• is it important for the receiver to have some level of attraction to the therapist or it doesn't usually matter?

• do these massages really last 3 hours? does one not get bored after a while? is there a minimum recommended duration?

• can anyone recommend videos that give an idea on what such a massage is? I am not looking for porn obviously, but tasteful videos that would appeal to a female

• is there anything else we need to know?