My partner and I have just celebrated eight years together. We are soulmates with a strong bond based on genuine friendship, unconditional love, nurturing each other as individuals, with deep, open communication. I'm 36, and he's 42 UK. We're both fully committed to our monogamous relationship, with no interest in exploring an open one.

Throughout the development of our sexual relationship, in which we are both fulfilled, we have naturally discussed and explored our kinks, fetishes, and shared fantasies. Over time, with mutual trust and a sense of safety, we’ve openly developed these desires, which has been an incredibly liberating and enriching experience.

My kinks are rooted in specific dad son role-playing dynamics, and I would love to fully immerse myself in such father son scenarios, including foot and muscle worship. We’ve explored these together as a couple, but my partner knows I have a deep longing to experience them more fully. He also has a voyeuristic kink and becomes extremely aroused at the thought of watching or joining me in these fantasies.

While we haven’t yet fully realized these ideas, after eight years together, I have no doubt about our commitment to each other. However, I find myself conflicted. Part of me wants to trust that we can explore these unique sexual experiences with carefully selected male guests, supporting each other through what could be incredibly elevating. On the other hand, a more traditional part of me fears inviting new energies into our relationship, worrying about the potential risks. I also don’t share his voyeuristic kink, and I struggle with the idea of allowing him to watch me without being able to reciprocate. I also equally don't wish either of us to live with regret.

At the same time, I can't deny that there are things I deeply want to experience sexually with different body types and ages. The idea that we could explore these desires together is beautiful.

I’m seeking advice from any perspective—whether from couples who’ve been together for a long time or those who have explored similar avenues—to help us find the right setup. I’m not interested in app culture, so I'd appreciate recommendations on sites like SilverDaddies.com, Sniffies, DoubleList, and FabGuys/Swingers etc which I’ve heard good things about.

Thank you for reading this. I deeply appreciate any advice or tips you can offer. I believe every couple needs to establish their own rules and conventions to make their relationship work. I know that some open or swinging couples grow closer through these experiences, while others find them damaging. I adore my partner, and he is more than enough for me sexually as I him. I'm not seeking something better; I just wonder if this could work for us, and if regret would effect us later.

Warm regards,