I (F) have a (F) partner I adore. We've been together for years and years. Prior to her, I was a bit of a sex fiend, and was hitting my stride and understanding what I like/why. For years; since meeting, we have never hit that stride. She has a history of sexual trauma and also is very sensitive to light touch. We do go to sex therapy, but all I want more than anything in the world is a sexual connection. The sex can be weird wacky or with our elbows, but I want to have that connecting release. I want it every day. I want it more than I want to breathe. And yet, I feel stuck. Can't figure out how to fucking get there. I am scared this ends in a breakup, in finding other people more sexually compatable. But I'm a psycho who's willing to do the work. Everything seems so straight focused. We don't have any penis! Help??