Or maybe how did you learn to do this?

I’m male, 47… am looking to practice tantra, starting with solo play, hoping to bring it into sex with my wife.

Soooo many years of masturbating too quick, and I am aware I’ve really made the down and out circuit strong.

As I sit and meditate imagining energy gathering around my root chakra, then moving up the spine and down the front….

I can’t feel anything?

Is this just an imagine that I do until I do?

For sure when pleasuring myself I do not feel able to pull energy out of my genitals…once I’m really aroused I can either maintain a level of arousal, but if I get into a runway train situation I can’t move the energy back up my spine.

I have to stop to allow things to cool off before starting again to avoid ejaculating.

I would really like to be able to control when I ejaculate.

I also want to know /have the experience of sexual energy all through my body and not just in my penis.

Thanks for any insights.