Hi all… I could really use some help. A man I’ve been seeing is really into tantric sex and been practicing this for years. I have no knowledge but am more than willing to learn. My problem is he’s not great at asking me for what HE wants and needs which is making it really hard to be a good partner. All he’s shared is a need to slow it down and really lean into breathing together. It’s his starting point with me.

I asked him yesterday to please share at least one thing he wanted for himself the next time we are together. He asked to lay naked together, breathe and for me to rub him. Help!! What does this mean? Is rub really rub or just touching him? He’s an incredibly giving lover and I really want to make him feel good. Any advice would be super helpful. What is going to blow his mind? Otherwise, I’m headed down a Reddit rabbit hole on my own. TIA