As the husband of a woman who has only recently fully accepted and been open with me about her submissive and masochistic needs - we knew it would just not have been authentic for me to pretend or act this out for her.

I've never intentionally inflicted physical pain on any person, or even animal, with the exception of childhood fights with my brother and two school yard scraps. No amount of hinting, requesting, persuading, cajoling would make me want to spank her, slap her, pull her hair, or spit on her. But this is what she wants.

Who am I to deny that?

Why should she deny herself?

Life is short.

So, only three realistic options:

1) She gets that need met with my awareness and blessing 2) She does it behind my back 3) She looks forward to a life of regret and unfulfilled needs.

We went with Option 1.

We now see it like this... Most of the time, she wears comfortable shoes and slippers (may be 29 days of the month).

About once a month, she gets to wear her ridiculously uncomfortable, gorgeous Manolo Blahnik high heels. I don't give her those. She goes to our friend (her Dom) for that need to be met.

She comes to me when she takes them off and I give her a relieving, relaxing foot massage and rub arnica into her bruised arse 😏.