As previously mentioned, the love of my life passed unexpectedly and I still have to work. Obviously working in the club brings up a billion different issues when you’re going through a hard time. Here’s some things im doing to prevent myself from going off the deep end 😊💕

• set amount to put in savings after every shift (automatically shove it somewhere safe) so i dont go spending crazy and broke to cope

• finances the morning after every shift, keeps me from over spending and losing track of things. Helps me feel in control of my life.

• maximum 4 drinks per night WITH a glass of water between but im trying to be 100% sober in the club and out

• bringing propel drink mixes to the club, if I accidentally drink too much, this will prevent hangover and help sober me up

• set cleaning days and times, including for my work bag. Every night I’ll toss things in a hamper. This stops the laundry from piling up and making me more depressed

• let my managers know what is going on so they understand and can help aide in cutting me off if I DO fall off the deep end

• limiting how much I think about the club etc. I journal after every shift to get the thoughts out and then focus on hobbies etc more

• avoid anyone who will offer me any sort of substance. Idc what it is, I ignore them all together because im at a time of struggle and too vulnerable right now’s

• small savings goals over big ones. I dont have the mental bandwidth for large goals anymore, so im sticking to “pay xyz two months in advance” instead of my original $20k baby fund

• packing lunch so i dont fall into the habit of fast food or not eating after work :) easy stuff at home too, like Dino nuggets

• set schedule so i dont get cash addicted and fall into the trap of working myself until i cant anymore

Hope this helps anyone who may need it