I was recently contacted on a swinger site asking if I would be the other woman for a couple. The female in that couple (and their profile on the site) stated that she wanted to be a cuckqueen and watch her man have sex with another woman.

It was my first time ever meeting anyone on the site and it sounded like it would be interesting.

We started and she was outside the room (I assumed her fantasy was to come and "find" her man with another woman). In hindsight maybe I should have questioned it at that time, but again, first time and I was just super nervous and I figured they had sorted out those logistics before I got there. (in getting to know them, the male had been in the lifestyle years ago and was familiar with terms and rules and I was also familiar with them, seeing as how I am new, I wanted to make sure I never stepped on any toes!)

Anyway, my dilemma now is: They want a 3 some and she has been texting me non stop and repeatedly telling me I'm not allowed to kiss him, but I can kiss her.

I'm beginning to think, she's not as sure of what she wants and it will only get messy from here.

Should I cut ties now or have a conversation with them together before we meet again? I'm thinking conversation at the least, but since I'm new to this lifestyle and I think I'm doing things right, I just want to follow the rules of the lifestyle and not muck up anyone's relationship.