Hi! I'm looking for an AP for whom I can be her care giver (defined below). I'm a professional east asian man, married with a kid, but in a dead bedroom and lacking intimacy. Not just sexual intimacy but I need to feel fulfilled. I'm a responsible person and I enjoy building a family and helping my little human grow. But with the lack of appreciation and intimacy I do not feel fulfilled and that is why I'm looking.
I'm not looking for a ddlg relationship per se, but given my nurturing personality, I find a lot of satisfaction in being a father figure. Not the typical call-me-daddy during sex just so I can get off type of fake daddy dom. I want to be the whole package. The satisfaction of bonding emotionally with you, taking you under my wings, sharing my wisdom and knowledge, teaching you things, seeing and helping you grow emotionally and spirtually, helping you experience the world differently and building our own fantastical world with you is something I want. I don't have a daughter irl, and that is not in the cards for me in this life time, but I would like to experience that Daddy-daughter bond. I want to brighten your day every day. That is what a good Dad would do. I want to show you my patience and dedication. I want to look into your eyes and know that you revere me as a good girl would. Yes, and all the kinks that can develop along the lines of this type of dynamic, whatever you call it. It's not a kink to me per se, though the power exchange in itself is undeniably hot.
More about me...I have a myriad of hobbies. Sports, reading, writing, gardening, cycling, and other old people things. I like classical music, music from the 60s, and generally things that stand the test of time. I don't smoke or do drugs, nor have tattoo or piercings. But in terms of vices I do drink hard alcohol socially, and bourbon is my favorite. I like working out and being fit, and be well groomed. I don't womanize, am very respectful, responsible, and generally a good person and understand consent.
In terms of the person I'm looking for, someone local, genuine, and mature. Mature enough to value people as individuals and value relationships, and know what it takes along this journey of building an emotional connection. In that sense, a demisexual. Someone who appreciates and wants to put the trust in a a father figure who can and wants to nurture you. In that sense, a sapiosexual. I prefer someone who's not single, or at least can understand the lifestyle of a married person. Daily texting is expected. In person meetups is possible (bi)weekly-ish, though largely dependent on our logistics. I like someone understanding and reasonable. A good girl really. I don't prefer the bratty type. I'm open to any legal age, though given I'm looking for someone who is mentally mature, I'd say typically 25 and up would be a better match. I am open to race, body type, and I don't kink shame. To me this is a rewarding journey for self growth, for you and for me too, for which I'd like us to keep an open mind.
If this post is still up, I'm still looking. If you're interested, please send me a chat and tell me 2 fun facts about yourself and any prior experiences you have with this type of relationship, if any. What did you like or not like about your experience? And I may tell you a dad joke I stole off the internet
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