So the title is my question and basically, I (21f) have a boyfriend (21 as well) and we have tried to have sex before but he couldn't ever go in and when he was able to (just the tiniest bit, like a tiny bit of the tip) it was incredibly painful and I didn't understand and he didn't either, until today when I was told by my doctor that I have Vaginismus.

He is my first ever serious relationship, and I do love him and don't want to keep this a secret, and I know for a fact that he wouldn't get angry or be disgusted or disrespectful at all because I have told him about embarrassing stuff before and he was very calm and chill about those moments, but I am very scared for some reason to tell him, I'm scared to tell anyone in fact but I want to tell him first.

So is there a way I could subtly bring this up, like sort of move towards this conversation without me blurting it out? Cause I will 10000% tell him immediately, but I just don't want to feel anxious while saying it and have my heart beat out of my cheat. Thank you!

EDIT: Also I am going to be seeing a physical therapist that my doctor has recommended, to help with this. So I am in the process of doing stuff to fix this.