I've looked for similar posts on here but couldn't find anything, I hope this is alright mods.

I find this super confusing - wonderful, don't get me wrong, but confusing.

So at the start of our relationship we probably jumped the gun with sex a little bit, I didn't know that she was a virgin and she didn't mention it - found out when I went to go in and was like OH.

Long story short, she ended up faking orgasms because she didn't want to disappoint me, I should have been much clearer on my expectations of her (there weren't any, women's bodies a intricate and beautiful, it takes a while to learn every person's ropes) but wasn't and my confidence took a real blow. Pretty much after I found out she had faked some of her orgasms, she stopped being able to cum during sex at all.

The healing process has been a long one, and after more than a year since then we've learnt how to get her off using a vibrator, but I still haven't been able to make her cum using only my mouth/hands.

Que to about a month or so ago, I was fingering her (I like using my hands/mouth a lot) and through some magical f*ckery I made her squirt?? She FREAKED out because she's mortally afraid of wetting the bed lol, but I calmed her down and explained what had happened (I've only ever made one other person squirt in my life, once, when they were high as hell)

I'm genuinely baffled as to how this is possible. She's not sure if she's orgasming when it happens, she says it feels more like it 'erupts' from her clit, not like an orgasm exactly but still feels really good. It's happened about 4 times since then, about once a week, and she's slowly started getting more comfortable with it.

My question is how is this possible? She confessed that she's had a bit of an emotional block about letting me back in after the mess that happened between us on the day she told me she'd faked some of her orgasms with me. But we've been making lots of strides in our communication lately. Is this her bodies way of slowly letting me back in?

Can any women attest to this?

TLDR; Can't make my girlfriend cum after a bit of an emotional blowout that left some scars, but can now make her squirt, and want to know how that's possible.