Okay, I’ll try to make this long story short. Been with my partner for 22 years. He has a track record of going extremes. He took upon a spiritual practiced based in India with his best friend (neither are Hindu), they follow these gurus and visited them in India. His friend has taken on the extreme route but he lives in California so my partner slipped away from this spiritual path and we were able to wine and dine, have fun socially together, have gatherings with our friends and family every Sunday for Italian dinner. I really base food around family, and relish yummy meals…that consist of onion and garlic which is banned from his spiritual practices. Well his bff came to visit us for a few days, and lo and behold my partner was back to not eating garlic and onion, not drinking wine, and also to top it all they are not allowed to use pots and pans or plates or utensils that’s been touch by animal products even eggs. So my partner set aside a paper plate and plastic fork that he eats off of, his friend brought a container with a fork and a ziploc bag of its own sponge to clean with. I just find the whole thing odd. I shared this with them last night, how I am disappointed because I am losing this side of our relationship where we can’t go out to eat because I mean, we are in America and onion and garlic is our staple. And my partner and I enjoy hosting meals for friends and family on a frequent basis, it’s part of something we share together in common. Last night they made pasta with pasta sauce without onion and garlic, it was so gross, I got creative and used onion powder and garlic powder for my plate to better the meal. Well our conversation, his friend basically shot me down, and said this is MY problem that I will need to accept and work through. I don’t know, the whole thing is a turn off for me. They also meditate for hours, his friend has no social life due to his restrictions and I’m afraid my partner soon will be secluded like him. I’m one to say life is too short. We also have two children, that are full fledge meat eaters plus onion and garlic fans as well. Before his friend came in, I observed my partner binge on 4 Impossible whoppers (he’s always been vegetarian, I don’t mind that) because he knew it was his “last meal”since his friend was coming to “reset” him as fake meat has loads of garlic and onion.

With thanksgiving coming, Christmas, we always hosted and now it comes to this….help! What am I supposed to do? How can I convince him this isn’t good for our relationship and family?