It’s less of an overall communication error but more of a “Scheduling issue”.

For example, Last night I had a big concert that I bought tickets for my birthday. I had told Leo in advance that I’d have the concert that day and usually I’d mention the time of the event too but family issues came up and I was drained socially. I woke up the next day and I looked at my phone to see hundreds of texts from my mom and a bunch of remnant arguement stuff.

My mom is very draining to live with and when fights happen then I shut down or get emotionally riled up. Leo knows this and anytime I say “Hey I’m going to step away just to decompress”, they give me that space-

Now merge that with anxiety and prepping for a concert- I shut down socially and tried to refresh myself by focusing on self care: Taking a bath, making some food, getting ready for the concert.

I texted Leo twice before I left and it was responding about them complaining about work and me reassuring them it’ll be okay and a reassuring message.

I feel awful. I didn’t update them when I had the chance in the car or while waiting in line. I got distracted in the moment, playing the set list in the car and hyping up my bestie to get girls numbers.

I just- I should’ve but I didn’t with this stuff.

I communicate on everything else as much as I can. But scheduling is always where I fall flat.

In my past relationship, My ex didn’t care about the relationship and would leave me on delivered for up to 12 hours daily. It tore me down to put scheduling daily but no response.

Now I have someone the complete opposite of that: direct, communicative, wants to know my schedule- I don’t know how to switch mindsets.

We aren’t official but we both really want to be the main reasons we aren’t is due to me figuring out if I want another long distance relationship and purposefully give up on the in person moments as well as the issues I have in communicating when I have the opportunity to.

I had time to write out everything before I just… I’m just anxious of unwinding all of my past.

Also my bestie who I was there with wanted me not to stress about relationships and a ‘talking stage’. She’d always be over my shoulder asking ‘who are you trying to text’ cause she knows how stressed I get over Leo.

I finally gave up trying to figure out how to respond yesterday in the concert and just put my phone down and enjoyed the concert. I knew that I had informed them at least the concert was tomorrow and that I got super stressed and low energy the night before.

But now I’m awake and I see there’s one text from them that says they were upset that they didn’t get a specific time.

Which is reasonable!! I just..didn’t know the time we’d be leaving either- my mom got into another argument with me cause she wanted to leave 3 hours early to a 30 minute drive concert that doesn’t open until an hour before. and from the self care energy restore montage- I wasn’t focused on them.

How do I communicate my schedule more? How do I dismantle my past mindset about communicating schedules?