Hi, I resort to Reddit as a source of help because I don’t really know who to open up about this irl. A couple of months ago I started dating my boyfriend, whom I met on a dating app and I was enchanted from day one. He is a refugee from Russia due to the war causing increased homophobia and transphobia (he is a FtM trans male). Though I think we may have moved too fast in our relationship, I love him dearly but I just feel kinda uncomfortable regarding his financial status? As a refugee in our country, he has to wait for 6 months before he can get a job permission and be able to maintain himself, as for the moment he gets some allowance from his dad’s side of the family every few weeks and just spends it on food, because sometimes the food they serve to him isn’t appetizing to him. We are currently doing long distance, he has been moved to another city because there was a housing problem in my city. When he was still here in my city, all the dates we went on was covered by me, because I knew his situation, but I think naïveté got me.. Now I can’t help but feel like he depends on me financially in a way. But maybe it’s my fault.. A week into dating, we went to a store which had expensive gothic clothing and I bought him a 40€ shirt.. even I don’t spend that much money on a single piece of clothing, but idk. Then we were talking about going to a concert, and since he had been moved to a different city, he’d have to gather some money to come to my city where the concert is going to be held. He immediately assumed that I would have to cover his ticket entrance so I said to not worry about it. I don’t mind this, but other moments where he does get allowance from his family, he just spends it on junk food, and later gives me hints that he wants to eat something specific.. and I say to him well.. I kinda saw this coming. IDK. I feel awkward being in this position because I do have money but I’m a working student, I like to spend money for myself sometimes because growing up I was always told “you’ll get it next month” and most of my clothes and shoes would have to be breaking or with holes and then my parents would consider getting me new stuff, which kinda felt like I was neglected on material stuff so now that I’m able to have an income of my own (while still living with my parents) I just go crazy buying myself things. Maybe I am materialistic but I still feel kinda uncomfortable that I’m spending this much money on my partner.. Please lecture me, I need people’s insight so I can change my perspective because I feel like an asshole for having these feelings, because I know he’s in a vulnerable situation but I’m feeling like this..